Thursday, 21 November 2019
You can weather the storms.
This page looked stormy to me. There is light, but it's behind some rain and dark clouds. It made me think about how we weather storms and push on through to the light again. Mostly we do it by travelling with God, with friends, with fellow travellers. No-one should have to weather storms on their own. Stomping through the rain on your own is very different to stamping in puddles and laughing at the ridiculousness of how wet you are with someone else.
Who can walk with you through the storms you're facing today?
Monday, 18 November 2019
Is your heart in it?
This page has a heart way off to the side. Most of the pattern is happening on the other side of the page. The heart isn't really in the 'interesting' part of the page.
There are some things that I do that I love. My heart is truly in them.
There are other things that I do because I must. Some of those are neutral and some, my heart really isn't in them, but they are necessary. I still do them to the best of my ability, but they are not the things I most look forward to in my day.
Work out where your heart longs to be and plan your day to have some of those things in it.
Friday, 15 November 2019
Tethered, anchored, or held?
When I stepped back to look at this page, I noticed that all the elements were 'attached' to the edge of the page in one way or another. It made me think about being tethered, anchored, or held. They hold different connotations for me.
Tethered - being tied in a way that hampers movement.
Anchored - being tied in a way that stops you from drifting; holding you fast
Held - supported; kept in place
Different people in the same situation might feel any of these three. What feels supportive for one person might feel restrictive for another.
So the thing to ask yourself for different situations is: do you feel tethered, anchored, or held?
Wednesday, 13 November 2019
Reflect and connect.
This page reminded me of reflections in the water and also veins. Reflections and connections. It brought to mind how we need to think about (reflect on) how to connect with others. Yes, we can just launch into a conversation, but once we know a few things about someone, we can start to see where our lives intersect.
I was chatting with someone the other day and I felt like I had nothing in common - different ages, different interests, moving in completely different circles - but then I remembered: we are both women, we are both mothers. It's broad, but it's a start.
Monday, 11 November 2019
Said. Heard. There may be a gulf in between.
I've been thinking a lot about communication lately. How what is said is not necessarily the same as what is heard. We all bring our own filters, our own experience, habits, hang-ups. Knowing the person you are talking to well can help you to spot when something has been misheard/misunderstood. And to know when a subject might be touchy so you can be careful how things are worded.
But even knowing them well is not a guarantee of understanding.
So how much more careful do we need to be with people we don't know well.
If there is something you need to communicate, get the person to repeat back to you what they understood from your conversation, just to make sure you're both on the same page.
Tuesday, 5 November 2019
I had a very tense conversation recently. It was awful - I said something that was taken completely the wrong way, causing upset and tension.
The next time I saw that person, I was expecting it to be really tough. I wasn't looking forward to it at all, especially as this was going to be a longer time together.
But it was fine. We cleared the air, the point I was making was taken on board, and behaviour changed.
Though the first conversation was awful, if it had happened on the second occasion, it would have been much worse. The timing was perfect, because God knows what He is doing.
I'm still going with making books. I love these vintage-style hardback notebooks. Let's hope other people do, too!
Friday, 1 November 2019
From where I'm standing, the view is different from the one you can see.
Conversations can look very different to the people who are taking part in them, too. You may say something quite innocently that is received as a rebuke, even though it wasn't meant that way. We will offend people, even if it's unintentional. We can't control how other people receive our words, but we can carefully measure them before we speak.
Wednesday, 30 October 2019
Along with the bags for the Christmas Fair, I've been making books, too. Here is a selection of what I've made so far. Some are ring-bound and some hand-sewn hardback books. I'm doing a variety of sizes, too. You can see some of the threads that are decorating my studio floor while I'm sewing bags...
Monday, 28 October 2019
I've been busy at the sewing machine and with the crochet hook this week. In a few weeks I have a stall at the Christmas Fair, so I've pulled out my fabric, ribbon, and yarn stash to make books and bags. I like the challenge of using as much of what I already have as possible.
Friday, 25 October 2019
This page, for me, has lightning and a planet. It's messy and has dark parts but also lots of light. It put me in mind of stepping away from the details and looking at the big picture.
There are times when looking at the details, taking note and not missing anything are vital. But it's also possible to get bogged down in those details and miss the bigger picture. Until we step away, we can't see if what we are concentrating on is actually the most important part or whether it's a minor detail that we've become caught up on.
When we find ourselves having/receiving sharp words, it's worth stepping back and seeing the bigger picture. Is it really about this, or is there something else coming into play? Are we distracted by details that aren't really so important?
Wednesday, 23 October 2019
While you're cultivating one part of your garden another part may be going wild.
We've inherited a garden that's been mostly neglected for the last 20 years. It's taking a bit of time to get it back in hand. At the moment I'm working on the hedge at the back, gradually working my way along chopping back and chopping down to a workable level. Meanwhile I look out of our dining room window and see the part at the side sprouting madly. Sigh.
It made me think about how that might happen in our lives. Perhaps we are working hard on something, some attitude or habit, and we may be making headway, but at the same time we need to make sure that other areas aren't being neglected.
Monday, 21 October 2019
It's not all about you!
It is easy to be selfish without even thinking about it. How often do we approach a situation from our own point of view, neglecting to think about the person who it's really about? Put yourself in the other person's shoes before firing off a point of view.