An old Yiddish proverb:
Everyone is kneaded from the same dough but not baked in the same oven.
This is a good thing to remember, especially when entering a new relationship. Not everyone does things in the same way. Just because your family always puts the salt and pepper pots back in the cupboard at the end of the meal does not make that the 'right' way to do things. Leaving them on the table is equally valid. I don't even want to mention the 'squeezing toothpaste from the end or middle' debate...
We are all different in our habits because of upbringing and environment. But we are all made of the same stuff. Focussing on our 'sameness' is a lot healthier than getting annoyed at our differences.
So when you meet that person you find irritating today, just remember that they are made of the same stuff as you - they love, they feel pain, and they feel joy just like you do. Make sure you build them up in a way that speaks to them...
...which is not necessarily what would work for you.
